I answered:I really dont give a fuck!..The paint lady heard me and my wife gave me a look that Ill never forget..My butt and thighs were extremely tender for about 10 daysShe made sure that I never embarrass her in public again . The most severe paddling I received from my wife (a couple of years when I tracked up her freshly mopped floor) left bruises that were visible for about two weeks. I follow him. [6] In class look at the teacher while they're talking. The only choice i am given is which implement she ,may use on me and mostly its her choice. She has never said flatout no, and absolutely never asked to stop before I am finished shes proud of that and basically wont let me stop or it would ruin her record lol. By responding to your spouse's advances and initiating advances of your own you are communicating your loyalty, your selfless love, and your passion. This is not the first time you have misunderstood a comment I have made and at this point Im no longer convinced it will be the last. The important thing is that he presents his bottom for you to punish. There are many men who entertain fantasies of being dominated by a forceful woman all their lives yet would not dare ask their wife to spank them for fear of her reaction. We will make no mistake who has superior physical strength. I can only encourage people to be as wise in the dating process as possible. What a humbling thought and the reminder of our constant need for Gods grace. Sex: The submissive will keep the HOH satisfied. Dont be afraid to degrade and humiliate, and above all, when that bare bottom is turned up side down across your knee waiting for the paddle or hairbrush, dont disappoint him. I did, thats ok, its our wedding night and we were just getting acquainted and I am showing my husband what will happen if he displeases me or argues with me. Add in larger male size the act of slipping it in even hurts. She told the girl well be back in a 15 minutes She then walked briskly to the Family bathroom and beckoned me to follow her. But sex is not involved when it comes to punishment from her. A disciplinary wife is not for you to manipulate or make request of, it is for you to submit to her authority and discipline. I have had full healing emotionally from sexual abuse but from what I can tell, that is definitely a rarity and is all Gods grace. No one was happy. If the husband is allowed to dictate when he will or will not obey an order, then that leaves some question as to who is really in charge, doesnt it? I know how you feel. Domestic discipline, as described here, is probably practiced in many more homes than you and I would ever guess. We had disagreed, and very strongly, but had moved on to talking about how wives are often the cause of marital issues and about my baby and pregnancy (and I did appreciate your concern and care you expressed there). As a strong dominate, in charge, woman she will and should decide how to disciple you as well as how much. I see the logic behind those reforms. In previous times when divorce was extremely rare couples just stayed together even if they could not stand each other because society frowned on divorce. How to make your husband obey you. You must understand that all women are different. There really isnt except for being kind and allowing BGR to rebuke them if needed. Sure, but I dont think thats a bad thing. Pray with him. She had been spanking me for foreplay before sex so we had all the appropriate instruments. My darling husband, worked tirelessly with me, through fits and starts, sticking with me, finally freed my spirit within. That is followed with a time out, when She orders me to the bedroom, where I must remain until She gives me permission to come out. I hope that this isnt too personal a question. It has nothing to do with feminism, but with basic biology. Paul warned about these days when he wrote: 1 I charge thee therefore before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, who shall judge the quick and the dead at his appearing and his kingdom; 2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine. The absolute greatest example of pain and redemption that I have seen is in Rwanda where I had the chance to visit a little over 2 years ago. I did this to my husband. Not implying that divorce is always wrong, but in our divorce-happy culture, any attempt at healing or not giving up on a marriage is commendable. If anything, its BGRs blog and its under his control how he moderates comments. The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are fully equal in the sense that all three are God. On our wedding day we were speaking with her mom when she offered one piece of advice. She was devastated, which was not my intention, and she barely spoke to me the rest of the day. More than ME! If you want more opportunities to reform and prevent modern problems, solutions in the civil sphere might include, work to change family law to be in harmony with the scriptures, reestablish male-only spaces, ban women from all positions in the military, eliminate no-fault divorce, criminalize fornication, repeal title IX, and move toward household voting. I also know that my aunts been the main breadwinner in her marriage since her husband hurt his back thirty years ago and lost the ability to continue doing the job that he had at the time. Ask God to give you an attitude that looks for the best in your husband and responds in ways that build him up. My fiance is a good man, very loving and gives me the desire to submit to him. One can never arrive at a point where two have truly become one flesh until the two are in union and harmony with each other. Its cruel because Im not a foot fetishist but my girl friend is very strong and she beats me up merciless when I refuse to clean her toes in between. I know that an old neighbor of mine has managed to balance working to support her family, taking care of her kids, and taking care of her husband in the years since hes been badly disabled from an accident. Once he learns you are the boss his reminder spankings wont need to be as hard, but in the beginning he needs to know you are the boss and you are not afraid to discipline him. On her return I was given a sound thrashing then sent to the corner to consider my future behaviour, Actually, there are at least 4 biblical reasons for a wife to discipline her husband. Ifeel i am a better person as a result of regular spanking. Tell him something you admire about him. The Benefits of Being a Sexually ObedientWife, Why Marital reboots are necessary for healthymarriages, https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2016/02/18/is-marriage-too-big-a-risk-for-men/, https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2015/12/12/12-ways-to-transform-modern-dating-into-biblical-dating/, https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2016/05/11/how-should-a-christian-wife-deal-with-her-higher-sex-drive/, Follow Biblical Gender Roles on WordPress.com. The wife and church who hold back are doing so in order to get something from their bridegroom. So on the 3rd night of our honeymoon, she did something to piss me off. Now, in her case, he could get other careers and make more money so that she would have to work less or not at all, but hes mainly either been unemployed or worked dead-end jobs since then. I told him drop his pants and underwear of Id insert soap in him with moms help. This will take considerable training, but if he knows you wont stop until he stays in position for a given amount of strokes, he will soon learn how to do it. Do you realize that I was actually AGREEING with you about how most problems in Christian marriages (and probably marriages in general) are caused by wives and I was trying to branch off of that agreement to find ways to help our sons? While I think there are a lot of things that we can and should try to do to unstack the deck, I am more concerned about how to 1: navigate it currently (and BGR, I dont at all see that as men just needing to be satisfied with the current environmentId argue that Christian women, especially mothers of sons or really any woman that cares about men should not be satisfied with the current environment even if they dont face the same personal risk), and 2: how to fix it on an individual level. Today she began taking me to the hallway out of everyones sight. I knew that she would have to explain all of the things I was doing to her to any future boyfriend or husband. Plus, learn 5 easy ways to submit to your husband and shower him with love every day! How sad. If there is love in your marriage, you will naturally submit to your husband. It is very wrong and actually cruel. I like this idea. The important thing is that he is being spanked across your knee and this is what spanking is all about. in general, shaming them for bitterness or whining, doesnt work because youre invalidating their experience and pain. I judge a lot by the size of you and then mounted me in a 69 position to our mutual satisfaction. Yes, their spouse is still at fault for being a stumbling block and should repent of that sin, but it doesnt excuse them. Absolutely men should be wise and aware of the terrible women out there (good men have been warning other men of such women since back in OT days as seen in the Psalms and Proverbs). Knowing this I bring her flowers, run errands for her, and open the car door for her. Her dad, knowing how she is, told me his one requirement to give me his daughters hand is a promise to never be unfaithful and to make her feel special. Shes manipulative. with that very hard rubber soled sandals..She was scolding me all the time say Youll never disrespect me again , ever!! NOW!!! Hide your nagging behaviour. That things were going to be different from now on. If altering his behaviour is the goal then you need to paint his butt in the boldest of colours with the strongest of strokes. My wife has left my bottom black and blue a few times and has even blistered my bottom a few times too. I know this may be awful to hear, but you arent responsible for how your sister comes to Christ either (and neither is Jeff). Then some time later I told him put on thevpanties and come inside. For serious punishment spankings ,my wife uses an ottoman for me to lay across with my trousers lowered . 3: It goes against what Jesus teaches (outside of those who are called to a life of singleness like Paul). So part of fixing this marriage crisis, is working on the WIVES attitude and them becoming truly virtuous women, who love to do their husbands good not evil, all the days of their lives. I definitely used quite a few of the tisseus. I was terrified of men, looked on all strangers (including fellow Christians) as potential threats, and absolutely refused to be outside in the dark by myself even if it was in a safe area (like walking from my car to my college dorm). At this visual command, he should quickly position himself across your lap. Few people know not even professing Christians that the Bible, when correctly translated, clearly teaches that a wife ought to have authority OVER her head, meaning over her husband. So thats my confession. I dont know what their sex life is like though. Im.also in pain sometimes after exercising that doesnt mean there is something wrong, you kinda just use logic and deal with it if its not a reason for concern. Over my KNEE! Not one of the modern little plastic brushes. And God taught me a lot and helped me to grow into a stronger person as a result of it. She has a saying or thing she says from time to time that women have no idea what makes a girl good in bed is what she is willing to let her husband do, and how much pain she can take. Feminists cant handle that concept but she wants to tell everyone but fears what people would say. The first time he hesitates after being given the signal, stand up and beat his bottom and upper legs really hard. If he said not to do something it feels odd to do otherwise even when others say I dont have to listen and give me weird looks. It should be of heavy grade cowhide, about 20 inches long and at least two inches wide. My husband and I are managing to have a good marriage in the midst of so much spiritual chaos, and if in 20ish years, the chaos is still there, I want my son to have that same chance. If he does what you say quickly and obediently, then you are well on your way to a new and interesting relationship. I do spank my husband. And it honestly isnt just about my sister. Involve your spouse in your life. I cant advise men not to get married because 1: thats extremely hypocritical of me as a married woman. Another type of strap you can make, have made, or purchase from a specialty store is called a Tawse. It is a regular leather strap except the last few inches are split into fingers. I can assure you that the feel of these fingers wrapping around a buttock or thigh is not soon forgotten. 38 This is the first and great commandment. Matthew 22:36-38 (KJV). Iget spanked for drinking as well.I have now stopped and bring her for a meal insted.Having said that she still finds an excuse to displine me. But in this day and age, Im much more concerned with him knowing danger signs to avoid and while I can do my best to help him (and while my husband has some personal experience at this although not in a marital sense), there is nothing like real-life examples from men who have suffered in and through terrible marriages. Disobeying has its own special kind of punishment for me from my wife. My fianc decided to inform me I am his wife not his girl friend and we have been working towards marriage and a future. These are all really wonderful authors, some were previous feminists, one is a feminist but can see things arent equal for boys/men, and theres a lot of good research and examples in them. Her blog(as does mine) focuses more on the evils of feminism and the sins of women toward their husbands than it does on the sins of men toward their wives. God has enabled us to look at systems(whether they be mechanical, economical, or social) and find ways to navigate them. If he wanted anything different, he wouldnt be over your knees in the first place. I fully understand why hed be doing that, but how often do we hear of women denying their husbands sex because their husbands genuinely dont talk to them or have been sexually selfish to the point where theyve made sex extremely unenjoyable for their wives or have been intensely critical of their appearance to the point where they feel self-conscious? He treats me like a princess. I remember my dad spanking my mom from time to time, and both of my parents spanked me and my twin sister quite often on the bare bottom. If you give a spanking the way it should be given, the results should still show a week later. If your husband makes a bad decision, avoid saying "I told you so.". Well the root of the issue is my husband has made me feel that oral sex is his top priority. If my Wife feels I have been a misbehaving husband or displeased Her in any way She wont hesitate to whip me and straighten me out. Download Article. Making that steak dish. No it doesnt help at all, because of the legal structure thats in place that is unfair to men if they get married, it is a special risk. If she gets upset with me , Ive learned that another excruciatingly painful spanking will undoubtedly occur.. My behavior should show a remarkable change or she thinks she was not severe enough! You can find the updated version here. The second most important thing you can do right now is to model what a woman of God looks like; being submissive to your own husband, even calling him Lord,pursuing personal virtue including meekness, a quite spirit without fear or doubting. Might he forsake all of that anyway? Great start to a marriage, right? Unless what you mean is that we should follow a more OT model where a man who fornicate with a single women either has to marry her or pay a fine while the young woman has to agree to marry him or make some form of restitution to her father. Gian and Marina Yes, BGR, you summed up what Im trying to say almost better than I did. 1. Furthermore, as her servant we read that discipline is needed! (and why on Earth do women think this is a good thing?!) Then resume the spanking. Make love. The downward thrust of the strop scorches each cheek vertically from the cheeks to the thighs.. Every stroke is excruciatingly painful.leaving two parallel 2/12 inch wide welts from my butt to the thighs.. After only 12 stokes ,Im crying like a babyIf I start yelping loudly shell stop and stuff my underwear in my mouth to muffle the sound and then she continues laying it on until 50 or more strokes have been administered .These horrific punishments are for one time offenses only which makes her boiling angry.. .Example We were at a paint store and she asked me in front of the paint lady, if I like a certain color? An alternative to a regular punishment strap is a leather belt. To be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. The strap hurts like hell, but the paddle hurts like DOUBLE HELL. It is a shame that men, while they are still young, are not taught better. Glorious Submission I Do Obey My Husband, Ten Steps to a Deeper Friendship With Your Spouse, Understanding Your Husbands Sexual Needs, Your Husbands Sex Drive Is Gods Gift to You.